Alone for Christmas

Ah the holidays. It should be the best time of the year, but for some single folks – it may be the most dreaded time of year. Not because we are single but because we’re asked several times why we don’t have a significant other by relatives at gatherings. This precedes unwanted advice or un-welcomed words of encouragement.

“He’s out there, you’ll find him when you least expect it”

Blah! I don’t want to hear that, not because I don’t believe that it’s true, because it’s just not necessary. It’s like telling a smoker that cigarettes cause cancer, they know. When relatives state the obvious, it can be more irritating than your nephew’s noise-maker, but it’s the necessary evil of the single-life.

Don't panic, there's a simple and effective way to deal with the inevitable awkward moments with your family, and it doesn't include running off to the bathroom to sulk.

Be confident

There’s nothing wrong with being single, and you should be proud of your single status. Don’t allow people to make you feel less worthy by not having a significant other. Happiness is found within; it is not defined by the person with whom you share your life. Regardless of what any love song will tell you, it's not the time you find happiness - it begins with you. Period.

Tell them about all the other things in your life you are proud of

I have one helluva fantastic career, I bought a new car, and I paid all my bills on time last month – I’d say that’s something to celebrate and be proud of. I enjoy the simple victories.

It’s none of their business anyway

Don't be rude by any means, but be truthful - you just haven't found anyone that's worth your time, you're not in any rush, and you're exactly where you need to be. Whether or not you believe it is beside the point, this will shut them up and hopefully spread the word to your other relatives that are eager to ask you the same questions.

When all else fails....

Enjoy your holidays.