Bachelorette Survival Guide - Single but Not Available

There's a common misconception in Bachelorville - that if you are single, it automatically means that you are available. I don't know who started that rumor, but I am here to put it to rest.

As a single woman, I'll occasionally come across random date requests, through social media or elsewhere, including probing questions to determine my availability. Yes I am single, no I am not available. I don't mean it as harshly as it may sound.

After reading James Sama's 8 Reasons It's Ok to be Single blog, it occurred to me that I am consciously monopolizing my fate.  And it is for good reason. I refuse to settle for a relationship that may be forced in order to be socially accepted and not frowned upon for living the life that I choose to live at this time.

Being single doesn't mean that I am not happy, nor does it mean that I don't feel completely whole as a human being. I'm certain that I have said this before, but I will say it again, I don't need a significant other to feel significant.

Assumed Marital Status

 

The idea for this post came to me shortly after an interaction with a Macs Convenience Store clerk; he candidly asked me a probing question about my fictitious husband - I have a complete disregard for his intentions, since it serves of no importance to me. I laughed and complied with inquiry; however, I wanted to say, If was married, I wouldn't be buying Tostitos and cheese sauce for dinner.

Online Availability

Since I am being honest, I'll admit that I have tried online dating once or twice.... OK three times, many years ago. The last occurrence was the straw that broke the camel's back. I concluded that I will not find my future husband sitting at a computer sifting through endless dating profiles and pictures while attempting to weed out the douche bags from the nice guys - if that's even possible.

I don't frown on online dating, but it's not for everyone. Meaning me.

Social-ability

I never considered meeting men through social networks; rather, it is a personality assessment tool. You can judge a person's personality by their ability to socialize through various networks. You can typically tell whether someone has a sense of humor, or if they are uptight, by the types of posts that they write.

I do not accept date requests through any social media network. I'm not shunning others that may have attempted it time and again, but I know that it's just not for me.

I don't write about my single life to attempt to recruit dates or inadvertently ask for sympathy, rather, I write these posts because I found a way to relate to an audience and speak to them about something that I am experiencing at this time.

I'd like to hear your feedback on this series, drop me a line.